Ryan Lanza, Wrongly Named As Mass Murderer, Left To Grieve

Hoboken man learns his brother killed 27 people, including their mother.

Ryan Lanza was at his job in Manhattan on Friday when news outlets began to report that he had massacred 20 school children in Newtown, CT.

The reports said Lanza, a 24-year-old Quinnipiac University graduate, had murdered someone in his Hoboken apartment and then drove to Newtown, Conn., where he used a .223 caliber rifle to kill 27 people before turning the gun on himself.

The dead included his mother, Nancy, a kindergarten teacher.

Lanza's thoughts quickly went to his developmentally disabled younger brother, Adam, who he began to fear may have been responsible for the violence at Sandy Hook elementary school, friends said.

As media reports continued to name Ryan Lanza as the shooter and plastered his face across world, he took to Facebook and told friends he was not the man responsible for the brutal slaying.

"Oh my god, I think my mother is dead," he wrote, a friend told Patch.

Ryan Lanza and his roommate were being questioned Friday night at Hoboken Police headquarters. Neither have been charged with any crime, Hoboken Police Captain Jim Fitzsimmons said.

"Ryan is in shock," a close friend, Brett Wilshe, told Patch.

Lanza works at a financial company in the city, Ernst & Young, and lives in a five-story brick building on Grand Street, known as "The Metropolitan."

Media outlets quickly scrambled to "The Metropolitan," where Hoboken police gathered with FBI agents. Initial reports said that someone was killed at the apartment and that Lanza's girlfriend was missing. As curiosity grew from onlookers and media members, police draped yellow police tape around the perimeter, closing both sides of Grand Street just after 2:30 p.m.

No bodies were found inside the building, Fitzsimmons said.

Lanza was planning to head to Connecticut after hearing about the shooting, friends told Patch.

Those who know the Hobokenite, described as "nice" and committed to his friends, were also shocked by the news.

"At first you're devastated that 30 people were shot to death," friend Katie Colaneri told Patch. "And then you find out it's someone that you know, that you've met, that you've hugged. And you don't know whether to feel angry or sad. You find out your friend is alive but caught up in this mess. It's incredible."

"He's not a guy capable of shooting up a school," another friend of Ryan's told Patch Friday afternoon.

Heather December 17, 2012 at 08:59 AM
Journalists are arrogant and have no consideration for privacy.
CarolAnn December 17, 2012 at 02:53 PM
The media is so about their ratings. What is important is the truth. That is what we want to know. I work in an intermediate school and everyone of these children have been affected by this tragedy. My heart and prayers go out to the famiies of the victims of this horrific crime.
C. Rojas December 17, 2012 at 05:30 PM
May God give you the strength to cope as one will never forget such horrific senseless tragedy. A person with a disability should never had access to weapons. Let alone trained to shoot. Havin guns in a home where a ill person resides is irresponsible. His mom was probably in denial and did not realize up until the end that she needed help.
Julie Mami Chula December 17, 2012 at 05:42 PM
Can't Blame the media he had his brothers ID on him
frieda December 17, 2012 at 08:06 PM
terrible, horrific tragedy. NO WORDS TO SAY
Prsweetlove December 17, 2012 at 08:08 PM
@Julie mami chula, How do you know that did the media also say that?
lynn_d December 17, 2012 at 11:09 PM
and tell me.... why is it necessary to interview the other students who survived?? Does the media not think they're not traumatized enough by having gone through this horror? Is your god-almighty story that important that you have to make those little children suffer even more?? And why do you have to interview anyone that was part of it? Let them grieve, let them heal, leave them alone. Each and every reporter and media person out there should put themselves or a family member in this situation and see if they would want to be interviewed or have a family member interviewed. I understand they need to report the news, but I'm sorry... asking a 6 year old what it was like in there is not news. And shame on the parents for letting them be interviewed. Walk away and say you want your privacy ..... let them grieve, let them heal, leave them alone. And that includes Ryan Lanza as well... he is probably nothing but an innocent family member in this and doesn't deserve to be raked through the coals either. I'm sure the police got what information he could provide... he lost his mother, he's grieving as well... leave him alone!
Richard Dernister December 18, 2012 at 01:38 AM
Well said, lynn_d. The entertainment (not "news") media feed off tragedies like this to sell advertising.
curly wilson December 18, 2012 at 04:05 AM
no amount of tears can show the sadness in our heart. no amount of pain can make us forget this only time can heal what will never forget we ask sun how can you keep on Shining only god can help us deal and move on so lets beg him for some good times and no more evil
Aidan December 18, 2012 at 08:57 AM
For better or worse, the media is doing its job. It's ironic that those of you who are so appalled have all taken the time to read this article (presumably along with many many others) and comment on it. You are all part of the frenzy. If you believe what you say, remove yourselves from the process you find so grossly objectitionable and stew quietly in your ignorance.
Aidan December 18, 2012 at 10:52 AM
That Aidan hocked this Aidan's name!
lynn_d December 18, 2012 at 11:03 AM
Oh mr high and mighty Aidan... I never said I was appalled by anything... I merely asked why they find it necessary to interview 6 year olds who have just gone through the most horrific thing in their lives. Maybe if you knew how to read and comprehend your response might have been different.
eatingdogfood December 18, 2012 at 11:57 AM
Aidan has many a screen name.
Katie M. Bremer December 18, 2012 at 12:34 PM
Poor Ryan. I hope he is ok and gets all the trouble that was put on him back.
Dawn December 18, 2012 at 01:15 PM
At least it has been clarified & Ryan's reputation restored. Ryan has his act together & was acting as a good role model for his brother. Too often it doesn't work as hard as we older siblings try to set a good example.
Jordan December 18, 2012 at 07:40 PM
Give me a break. That family had absolutely no warmth and communication. Older bro moved out of state to crunch #s and make bucks and left his troubled family to fend for themselves. I doubt there was ANY support going on here.
Richard Vogel December 18, 2012 at 07:40 PM
The media causes mass hysteria with their twisting of the truth and their constant agenda towards liberal views. This was a great tragedy and society better fix the problem not scream for gun control. This mentally unstable individual broke several gun laws including being under 21 and possessing a handgun. He stole the guns and his mother payed the highest price for not keeping them locked up where he could not access them. She knew he was unstable and yet she did nothing to prevent him from doing what he did. We need to deal with these mentally unstable individuals and not let them only be noticed when they commit horrific acts.
sonji braswell December 18, 2012 at 10:07 PM
My opinion is i blame his mom cause y would take ur kid to train with guns and hes mentally unstable she was so busy trying to shield him from the outside world that she ruined him herself i kind of felt a little sorry for him cause he was a confused child that needed help
Kay-Kay December 18, 2012 at 10:08 PM
No! The father/husband left the family! How long is a young man supposed to live home with Mommy?! Really, You never stop parenting, but it is not healthy for a young man to stay at home and not branch out into society and make a life for himself.
Aidan December 18, 2012 at 10:24 PM
And she ruined her marriage, too. She was a mess. The kid was a mess. And they made a mess. This boy was sick ... for a long time. And she was in denial ... for a long time. And not a soul got blunt with her because, well, that is verboten nowadays. Everyone embraced this "root cure" nonsense ... and never saw what was right before their own eyes. Btw, the father new the score, too. He saw that his ex-wife was totally absorbed with this child ... and it probably poisoned the whole scene. He got away ... far enough to survive.
Aidan December 18, 2012 at 10:31 PM
Fear of being committed may have caused Connecticut gunman to snap By Jana Winter Published December 18, 2012 Read more: http://www.foxnews.com/us/2012/12/18/fear-being-committed-may-have-caused-connecticut-madman-to-snap/#ixzz2FRfpKLAk
Aidan December 18, 2012 at 10:42 PM
"Can we start with you?" Pssst ... Nyack, you're the loon.
Noturconcern December 18, 2012 at 11:03 PM
Richard Vogel is correct...its not the guns alone that killed all those children and Staff members, it was only the catalyst used in the act. Don't get me wrong, I believe that it is a terrible thing that happened that day and I have a 6 year old daughter and 3 year son. I think that guns in the hands of mentally challenged people should be looked into more. Treating them istead of throwing them into the general population, NOT STRICTER gun contorl laws. I am an avivd hunter and NRA member, I have been all my life. I grew up in a time in this country that people didn't do things like this to one another. I strive for a life that I don't have to worry about things like this, I think that we all do, or least we should. The fact of the matter is, the current state of our culture is violence based and glorified to the utmost. I agree that it is terrible that the media is interviewing the kids that survived this. They should be left alone and left to grieve in the privacy of their families and friends, with professional help.
TurkishTaffy December 18, 2012 at 11:10 PM
Judge not, Aidan. You do not know what went on in that household or who ruined the marriage. I'm sure you are so perfect.
Noturconcern December 18, 2012 at 11:13 PM
Kay-Kay, First, I think your an idiot...that being said HE WAS METALLY DISABLED!!! How could he have moved out into society? His "mother" thought she was doing the right thing by keeping him close, to protect her child. I will not "MAKE" my children move out for any reason at any age, as long as they are attempting to make it on their own. I am not saying that all kids should live at home forever, or until married, because that would not fit in our culture anymore, but take a look back at our culture 100 years ago and that was the status quo. JUST FYI!!
Aidan December 18, 2012 at 11:25 PM
TurkishTaffy 8:28 am on Saturday, December 15, 2012 Yes, another individual classified as a "ticking time bomb" who should've been committed. Hmmm. Piety must have arrived in today's mail, right?
TurkishTaffy December 18, 2012 at 11:50 PM
Aidan, you cannot blame the mother. It is not easy to have an individual committed. My gripe with you is placing blame on her for a failed marriage and calling her a mess. Maybe you should look at yourself instead of digging through my profile for past statements and obsessing with things i say. im sure you have a wonderful marriage. Get a life!
Aidan December 19, 2012 at 12:44 AM
"Maybe you should look at yourself instead of digging through my profile for past statements ..." Sorry, you can't say one thing in one post ... and then whirl around on the next post. It's called credibility. Dear, don't compliment yourself by presupposing my obsession with you.
Aidan December 19, 2012 at 01:09 AM
No doubt you do.
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